Few months ago I first met the love of my life. This person, it was a really good match since the first date. We went to a restaurant, had dinner and that’s would be it. But he didn’t want me to go home and I didn’t want to go home, so we decide to go to a bar, have some drinks, keep having amazing conversations (remember we just met, but the conversations were incredible) like we know each other for years. We had this amazing night and we never got separate again. He invited me to family parties since then.
I have to say I never felt this way before. Everything in our relationship is great. But I didn’t create this blog to boast of how great is our relationship now, I actually here to show the world there is a way to create the relationship you wanted. I know we had been taught certain way to love or been with someone. But we are not in the 60’s anymore, is 2023 so even if you think your partner would be mad or uncomfortable having that conversation, take the risk and ask that question on your mind that is driving you crazy, because let me tell you, those uncomfortable conversations will make your relationship stronger and will allow you both, to have any kind of conversations in the future.
For example:
Your partner love to see instagram post with almost naked person and you automatically feel insecure when you see that is happening. Or your partner love to go outside wearing this type of clothes that make you feel insecure.
- Notice that there’s something your partner do and then YOU feel in certain ways.
- Is not your partners fault, neither yours. That’s the way this person is. There is nothing wrong for this person.
So the best way to face this situation up, is by asking for a conversation. Let your partner know how you feel when this actions happens. Once you express what is happening in you whenever this actions occur, you would realize the size of the problem and identify if is something you have to heal from past trauma (and of course your partner can help you on that) or if is something that your partner does because he doesn’t respect you.
Once you identify it, is time to take action. Is hard to speak up about feelings and emotions and trauma, but there is another uncomfortable conversation that you should have with your partner.
The more you know and understand the other, the easier, prepare yourself for a long and amazing relationship.